“He didn't like it
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Part 1 of 3
Your best friend is dating this new guy. He's older than she is, but really cute, and you know she's just crazy about him. He recently bought her a pager, too. Today your friend shows up at your locker and she tells you, "I can't go to the mall with you today, Jonathon (her boyfriend) just paged me again, it's like the 40th time today and this is the first time I've responded. I gotta clear things up with him." |
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What would you do?
Part 2 of 3
Your friend looks at first confused, and then kind of defensive when you tell her Jonathon seems really controlling. She shakes her head at you. "What do you mean?" she says, "Jonathon isn't controlling, he just wants to know what I'm doing. That's not a crime, is it?"
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What would you do?
- Shake your head right back at her and tell her, “I can’t believe you can be so stupid. Any guy who pages you 40 times a day has got to be a crazed, stalker type. Get real.”
- Let out a disgusted sigh and tell her, “Look, if you’re not going to listen to good advice, I guess there’s nothing I can do. I’m not going to be a part of this.” Then walk away.
- Smile and say, “I know you’re really into Jonathon and it feels great to get all the attention. Maybe that’s all it is. But please know I’m here for you, if the relationship starts feeling too – uh—constricting, you know?
- Say, “Okay, I was wrong, you’re right. Have a great time with him!”
Part 3 of 3
So OKAY, let’s go back in time. What if in response to your first comment, your friend said, “You know, you may be right. He’s so cool, and then sometimes he really scares me a little. He gets so jealous, you know. And he thinks I should quit swim team.”
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What would you do?
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